Why do you think girls bring each other down?
I feel like girls bring each other down because they don’t know how else to make themselves feel better about themselves. Being rude to other girls, honestly, it just makes you feel worse, no one is going to like you if you’re doing that.
Do you feel like you need to compare yourself to other girls?
I do feel like there’s a constant comparing of looks, I’m comparing personality, I’m comparing followers on Instagram. We shouldn’t be comparing ourselves because we’re all unique in our own individual ways and we should just try to point out each other’s uniqueness in a good way instead of pointing out all the flaws, in ourselves and in others.
What are some ways in which you are constantly comparing yourself to others?
I think it’s mostly facial features, I have my own insecurities and I look for it in other girls and I see what they have and what I don’t. And yet you can’t control what you were born with and what you weren’t.
How do you overcome negative comments from others?
One of my old friends said something rude to me and it hurt more than it normally would because she was my friend! What I did to overcome that was realize that people that say these things, they just don’t understand that it’s sad that they are in a place that’s so dark that they need to bring me down too ⎼ so you have to just keep telling yourself that.
What do you think girls can do to support each other better?
I think instead of commenting hate, go up and give someone a compliment, I think it’s a lot more genuine!
Can you talk about a moment when you felt supported from other girls?
My family and friends, when I was being called ‘larger’ or ‘heavier built’, I’d go to my friends and tell them what happened and they’d be like, ‘Marla, you’re not. You know, you’re you!’ I think having that support system is what got me through tough situations. They’d always say, ‘If you don’t know them personally, don’t take it personally.’
What would your advice be to other girls right now?
We need to be supporting each other because we are all in the same boat. We are all in this, insecure-teenage-female boat ⎼ so instead of trying to tell others to walk off the plank, we need to be supporting each other and building each other up.
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